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Ig user: How do I heal from the past and learn to love myself again after toxic relationships?
Erin: This question strikes at the core of a journey many of us undertake in our everyday lives. When facing the aftermath of toxic relationships, it's natural to experience anger. However, it's imperative to resolve this emotion and release the situation from our hearts. My personal journey has involved delving deep into the parts of myself that permitted behaviors that devalued or failed to honor me as I honored others. Confronting our internal belief systems that allowed such outcomes is challenging. It's crucial to note that experiencing toxic relationships doesn’t imply agreement on our part, but rather a need to explore why these situations or individuals held an attraction for us.
Through this introspection, I've learned to acknowledge the parts of me that were fractured before these encounters and the aspects that suffered damage afterward. I turn to prayer, seeking God's help to release these burdens and to move forward peacefully. Healing from such wounds takes time, especially considering the extent of the damage. It's important to be gentle with ourselves if memories resurface. Lastly, my healing has come from immersing myself in God’s love. Understanding His love for me has led to a restoration of my ability to love myself more completely and profoundly. May you come to see yourself through the eyes of divine love and rekindle a passionate and profound love for yourself.
Ig user: How do you balance being a wife, entrepreneur, and working full time?
Erin: Whew! The true answer is it is not easy. At all. I have to be really focused at all times and when I am not an area may be lacking. When I wake up every morning I make a list of what I need to do that day including time for my husband, cleaning, exercise, cooking etc. That way I don’t forget something important that day. The other thing is that I seasonally prioritize what is needing most of my attention outside of my home. This has been the best approach for me because I find that each season requires my attention and effort in a different way. The best advice I can give is my home life and health come first and everything else follows that. Find a flow that works best for you and your household and don’t be afraid to shift seasonally as needed. It’s ok to evaluate what is working and not working, and it’s also ok to check in with your household and ask or access what is priority at this time so you can make decisions based on that. I don’t have children yet so talking to other mamas who are doing well in balancing their lives would be something I recommend.